So, this argument. “Kids do best with a mom and dad!”
My dad abandoned me as a kid and then I had a shitty stepdad. That really sucks, but it happens, and it has nothing to do with gay people getting married.
Kids do best with love and support. Adults do best when they’re not being assholes.
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“Kids do best with love and support. Adults do best when they’re not being assholes.”
Repeating that, because of reasons.
SING IT WITH ME NOW!
KIDS DO BEST…WITH LOVE AND SUPPORT
ADULTS DO BEST…WHEN THEY’RE NOT BEING ASSHOLES
The age of the nuclear family was a lie even when it was the norm. It has not been the norm for some time. There are excellent single parents, horrible parental duos, there are children raised by grandparents, aunts, uncles, even literal versions of the “it takes a village” saying. And that’s just a few examples in a wide variety of parenting.
But even tossing all that aside, let’s examine this: “I think everyone deserves a mom and dad!” What is that statement even based on? Is it anatomical? Is it that you think a kid should be raised equally by a penis and a vagina? Why? Is it based on the idea that a traditional parental duo should have parents that differ when it comes to traditionally masculine and feminine traits? Okay, I don’t think that’s universally true, but I can see where that thinking comes from. But why does the gender role have to match the anatomy? Hell, more and more, moms are filling “dad” roles while dads are filling “mom” roles. Why do you think the child will lack that if both parents have the same genitals?
Any way you cut it, there is no universal truth to what sort of parenting is best for a child. Every circumstance you write out on paper has an equal chance to succeed or fail miserably when put to practice. Parenting is about the individuals involved, not any kind of set guidelines. It depends on the parents, the kids, the location, the rest of the family, the culture, etc. Even in a “traditional” parenting environment, what works for one family doesn’t work for another.
So take your “everyone deserves a mom and a dad” and kindly rethink what it is that makes you say that. As said in the quotes above, kids do best with love and support. Everyone deserves love and support. No matter where that love and support comes from, and no matter what genitals are or are not part of the people giving that love and support.